Strengthening Your Family: A Review

It probably reveals way too much about me that, a chapter or two into Marge Fenelon‘s new book, Strengthening Your Family: A Catholic Approach to Holiness at Home, I was struggling with feelings of inadequacy and wondering if I could hire Marge to come and mother my children.

It speaks highly of this book, then, that I was able to put it down after finishing it and feel pretty hopeful.

I can do this, I thought to myself.

I credit this book for my new mommy policy: I will make something homemade once a week for after-school snacks (or end up at my mother-in-law’s, where she will make something homemade). The reason has to do with that warm feeling I get when my kids delight in eating freshly baked cookies and with the light in my seven-year-old’s eyes when she walks in the door and sees the goodies.

Much of what I read in Strengthening Your Family was not news to me, but it was refreshing and well-ordered. Fenelon speaks from experience, but she also commiserates with those of us still very much in the trenches of young motherhood. She offers suggestions, but she also offers prayer. She provides many ideas, but she also provides many caveats. Her foundation is not “being an awesome family,” but rather “getting your family to heaven.”

There’s a big difference between being awesome and getting to heaven, and I don’t know that I spent any time considering that before I picked up this book. It’s designed for Catholic families with kids, though I wouldn’t restrict it to kids of any age. If you have teens, you’re sure to find help within its covers, and if, like me, you have grade school and younger, you will get bolstered and emboldened.

Strengthening Your Family is a wonderful resource and guidebook for Catholic families. I’m glad to have read it, and plan to reference it in the coming years!

Lent Prep – A Book for Your Journey

I sat down to read Simplifying the Soul: Lenten Practices to Renew Your Spirit, by Paula Huston, with the intention of just reading the first section. Then I decided I could read the first couple of sections.

And then I read the whole book.

In my defense, I had a whole evening before me and I needed to get the review written for the Patheos Book Club. What I found with this book, though, was much different than what I expected.

I don’t know what, exactly, I expected, but I’m sure it had to do with preaching and a feeling of insignificance at the end. I was excited at the premise and what the book jacket promised, but maybe a little sure that I would not be able to approach Lent using this book as an actual resource.

“It will be good for someone, though,” I thought, “and I can surely read it and see what I have to look forward to.”

(Negative much?)

I was gloriously, wonderfully WRONG. I found myself reading, shaking my head, and looking forward to Lent, when I can dig in.

Will I fail? Yeah, probably. I do every year. In the failure is the kernel I need from Lent, I think, and success isn’t usually about what I plan, but about what graces I allow God to work.

Each day of Lent has a task, with a reflection by the author from her own experience, and then an brief description of the task or practice for the day.

Throughout the book, you get to know Paula Huston as your guide, someone walking beside you and encouraging you, even as she doesn’t settle for less than what you can at least try to do. She’s gentle, but tough. She weaves humor in with what I can only call teaching: she makes the Desert Fathers and Mothers an accessible crew, even for a busy mom in the Midwest.

Not only will I be embracing this book to the best of my ability this Lent, but I encourage you to do the same. It’s not too much, but the seed it will plant and tend during Lent, I believe, will grow into habits that make me a better Christian.

Advent Approaches (7 Cool Resources)

A great way to be reminded that Advent is looming, in case you were wondering, is to agree to write an Advent book.

In the last week, Advent has been very much on my mind (I’ve been preparing a talk for next week and I had an interview and there’s that book thing).

With Advent so much on my mind, I thought I’d share seven of my favorite resources for Advent preparation. I also added a widget to the sidebar, too. You know, because Advent is close!

(We interrupt this post for some screaming and running around, lest you think I’m calm and collected about Advent.)

Praying Advent

I’ve been using Creighton University’s Praying Advent site for a number of years. It never fails to help me appreciate the many aspects of Advent, and it can expand or shrink to what I need on any given day.

No-Panic Advent Series

Karen Edmisten’s No-Panic Advent series is something I reread every year. For one thing, Karen makes me smile. For another, she always reminds me to keep it simple and gives great tips for things to try and do.

Advent Wreaths

I have a soft spot for Advent wreaths, and I just love these weekly Advent prayers from St. Charles Church and these descriptions of the meanings of each candle by Living Hope.

A Pile of Great Links & Resources

CatholicMom.com has everything from recipes and coloring pages to lesson plans and reflections. There are resources you can purchase and creative gift ideas.

Take Baby Steps

Last year, Jen Fulwiler compiled a list of 24 super simple Advent ideas and they’re worth reading and considering.

Advent Music

I try to keep myself from the Christmas tunes as long as I can, and listening to Advent music helps. I found, in my searches, a site with Advent hymns and another with a musical Advent calendar. O Night Divine has a section on Advent music that’s awesome, and the Vatican website also has a section on Advent music.

Welcome Baby Jesus

Hey, look at that! I have just the book for your Advent

Visit Conversion Diary for more Quick Takes!

Every writer needs a retreat

(So does every mom, but that’s a different post.)

If you’re a Catholic writer (or aspiring to be one), be sure to consider this great opportunity:

St. Francis Retreat Center, in collaboration with FAITH Catholic Publishing and Communications and The Catholic Writers Guild, will sponsor Your Word is My Delight, a Catholic writers’ retreat, October 5-9, 2011. Come and delight in God’s word and sacrament, and pray in a beautiful and serene retreat setting.

The retreat’s key presenter is Pat Gohn, Catholic columnist, podcaster and catechist. Other presenters are Father Charles E. Irvin, David Krajewski, Father David Rosenberg, and Father Larry Delaney.

Writers will enjoy three spiritually-enriching days of daily Mass, adoration, the sacrament of reconciliation and many hours of writing time. Talks will explore how God speaks to and encourages writers through Scripture, papal writings and other topics in order to promote faith-filled writing.

Opportunities for networking also will be offered through an informal “book bash and social hour” Wednesday evening and Faith Catholic’s one-on-one “pitch sessions” that give writers the chance to sell their current writing projects.

Cost for the four-day retreat is $450, which includes meals and accommodations. Deadline for registration is September 28. A nonrefundable deposit of $45 is required at registration.

Here’s the schedule of events (link opens a PDF) and here’s the registration. I know I can’t attend this particular writing retreat, but I hope it’s the first of many!

 

My iPad Prayer Book

In my column this week over at CatholicMom.com, I share my favorite part of my iPad, that it’s my all-in-one prayer resource center. Come on over and share your favorites!

Also, if you were listening in this morning on the Son Rise Morning Show, we were talking about last week’s column, “The Myth of Converts as Better Catholics.” It is a myth, in part because I believe we are all converts. I’ll update as soon as I have a link to the archive of today’s show (the archive page is here).

Seven Lenten Favorites

There are other Lenten resources in my sidebar, too, and they’ll remain there until Easter (or whenever I remember to update). Last year, I highlighed seven Lenten links, too.

Karen’s Go-To Post

I went to it. In fact, I go to it every year. Chock-full of great stuff, all easy to implement and very accessible for those of us who are (a) craft-challenged and (b) intimidated by all the ways to share the seasons with our kids.

Papa’s Thoughts

Every year, the Holy Father writes a Lenten message. It’s not long this year, but it’s great reading. Make it a priority to read it.

Praying Lent

I love Creighton University’s Praying Lent site. It can be as simple or as complicated as you want. (If they only had an app…)

Thinking about Lent

All three of Michelle’s “Thinking about Lent” posts caught my attention, and I really appreciated the last one as a tardy-by-accident sort of person lately. Check out all three: Prayer, Penance, and Change.

40 Ways and a Top 10 List

I loved Danielle Bean’s list of 40 different ideas for Lent. You might too, especially if “easy does it” strikes a chord with you. She has them organized by Pray, Fast, and Give. She also re-ran the Top 10 Lenten Observances for Kids at Faith & Family Live, which is worth a read too.

Considering the Our Father

The brilliant Jen Fulwiler is considering the Our Father word-by-word. Her first post, OUR, is up, and I’m eagerly awaiting the future posts. This is going to change how I embrace this prayer, and what a great reflection for Lent.

Fiction for Lent

One year I gave up fiction for Lent. Not so this year, and I love that Julie, Queen Bibliophile, has assembled a list of fiction that’s appropriate for Lenten reading.

What are your favorite Lenten links and resources?

Needles and Creativity

Thanks to some work I do for the Catholic Writers Guild, I sometimes get copies of books by Catholic authors. The two books I’m sharing with you today came to me that way, and I’ll admit that I was delighted. They had been on my purchase list for a while.

Both of them are billed as “homeschooling books,” but I am here to modify that a bit. If you homeschool, you will certainly find them helpful. But, my friends, I am not technically in the homeschooling ranks anymore, since we’re sending our eldest to kindergarten in the fall, and I just know these books will become treasured friends on my resource bookshelf. I don’t think this makes me weird, either. I think we parents, especially those of us with school-aged children in our lives, have a need for idea-generating resources around us, inspiration that can be opened up and picked through again and again.

Haystack Full of Needles, by Alice Gunther (who is one of the nicest, most lovely people in the blogosphere), is subtitled “A Catholic Home Educator’s Guide to Socialization.” I have read raves about how it sets the record straight on the myth of how you’ll get that much-needed and much-talked-about socialization time in if you choose to homeschool. I agree with those reviews, but as someone who is both intimidated and very enamored with the homeschooling, I found in it much more than that.

Hope. Yes, that’s right: hope. Whether you send your kid to the public school down the street or have discerned some other educational option, this book has suggestions that you can implement and weave into your life. It’s not as much about your children and you as it is about the larger community, about foster the Body of Christ within the context of children playing together. It’s about community, in the sense that we seem to have forgotten in our world of Twittering and texting. It’s about stepping back from the rush and embracing the cup of coffee and the companionship of other people.

I find a lot of hope in that, because I find that in the counsel Gunther so beautifully shares throughout her book, I have an answer to a longing of my own, the longing for support in more than just educational pursuits or faith pursuits or homemaking pursuits. Somehow, she braids all these, and more, together, telling stories of her own adventures, strewing seeds along the path for you to water or leave…as you choose.

In His Image: Nurturing Creativity in the Heart of Your Home, by Mary C. Gildersleeve, has a subtitle that almost sent me packing: “Nurturing Creativity in the Heart of Your Home.” Now, folks, I love creativity. I write for a large part of my work. I understand that creativity is about more than arts and crafts and that we all have our own brand of it.

But…there was still some hesitation, because I know that while I define creativity loosely and openly, most others don’t…and this smacked of an artsy sort of book.

What I found in this book, instead of a detailed mandate to get myself working on being better at the elusive arts, was encouragement and support for an area of life that I treasure. Gildersleeve approaches creativity from the standpoint of a gift from God, and she gives a host of resources, ideas, and general tips that even an uncoordinated, intimidated dunce like me can make use of.

It’s because she gets me past myself, and because she is so gentle. She stresses the importance of the arts and gives practical ways to incorporate them. You don’t have to have an hour a day to pull these things off; you don’t even have to have a plan (though, of course, that does help).

Once again, we have a book that’s written for and marketed to homeschoolers that the rest of us should snatch up and check out. There’s wisdom here worth gleaning and sharing and using!

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